WARNING: While the content of this post will be relatively PG in nature, the links included are ONLY meant for adults ages 18+. Yep, this means they contain adult content. So if you are around the kiddos, at work, or find such content objectionable, please do not click anything. Also, if you're my mother and want to be spared the details, however vague, of your daughter's marital relations, you may not want to read any further. That's right, people, we have another fun EdenFantasys post! It's no secret that daily responsibilities, such as kids, jobs, bills, household chores and the recent acts of God here in Virginia can be the Jack Kevorkian of romance. As a matter of fact, I don't know what the word "romance" means anymore! Since having my two youngest children, the hubby and I have had almost no couple time at all. I work all day taking care of the kids, the house and the blog, and he works very long hours away from the home to provide for us. So needless to say, by the end of the day we are both generally ready to fall asleep from sheer exhaustion. My husband doesn't work a typical Monday-Friday schedule, so usually his days off are not consecutive and are spent playing catch-up rather than enjoying time off with me or the kids. We rarely get quality couple time together, and honestly, I feel pretty lonely at times. I am a very shy person, and spend all day with my beautiful babies. While they are wonderful, they're certainly not the best conversationalists! I don't really know too many people locally that I can get together and socialize with, and most of my good friends live in other states. It has always been a real struggle for me to meet new people, more than likely because I am so shy. So I guess you could say I have been pretty lonesome and down lately. I can't really expect my husband to understand how this feels, since he isn't in my position as a stay at home mom, but it is pretty depressing at times. Especially when he comes home, stares at the TV and unwinds, plays with the kids, eats dinner, and falls asleep. In that order. Like clockwork, on a daily basis. So I think it's pretty safe to say, romance has become a stranger here lately. Mama's not getting any loving at all. And I don't just mean in the bedroom, either. (Although I can feel tumbleweeds starting to form down below from lack of use, even as I write this now.) There just seems to be a disconnection lately. Sure, we love each other. Sure, we're happy together. We're not having any marital problems. It seems that LIFE has just gotten in the way of being able to express our feelings and desires to one another lately. All of the responsibilities that come along with being an adult and a parent have allowed our relationship with each other to be put on the back-burner. Well, my husband somehow managed to get a 3 day weekend this week. So that means I will be spending Saturday, Sunday AND Monday with him. Well, him and the babies...My oldest will be with his dad this weekend. I am hoping that having 3 full days together might just help rekindle some of the romance that has gotten lost somewhere among countless dirty diapers, piles of laundry, and the never ending stack of bills that must be paid. But how can I achieve this without setting myself up for disappointment? Maybe I will break out some candles and we can crack open the bottle of champagne that has been collecting dust for the past month. I might prepare his favorite dinner, Chicken Cordon Bleu, along with a nice green salad and a loaded baked potato and have some real conversation over dinner for a change. And once the babies are asleep, some truffles, a little bubbly and some nice music may just remind us that we're more than just parents and providers... Or perhaps my husband will still remain in sleepy, zombie mode and I will have to turn to some sexy lingerie to help get him in the mood and remind him that I am still female. I have a ton of costumes that have yet to be worn, so perhaps as I do some housework a French Maid persona would be in order. Or maybe even a referee costume during one of the preseason NFL games. Or maybe I will keep it simple and just wear a pretty chemise. If he's responsive to all of the above, maybe I can even get him to play one of the great couple's games I got from EdenFantasys. I love the Cosmo's Steamy Sex Games adult game I got a few months ago. With a ton of different games in one little box, there's no chance of boredom! Or maybe we'll end up not knowing how to reconnect as a couple. Maybe the romance IS gone. This is my biggest fear. Maybe I will spend 3 whole days with my husband and not know how to interact with him one on one anymore. Maybe we won't have anything to talk about except the kids, chores and other responsibilities that every day life demands. Maybe once there are babies in the home, passion becomes a distant memory...at least until they're not so little anymore. Or maybe the loneliness of being a stay at home mom in a town where I don't know anyone and having a husband that is always worn out is finally just taking its toll on me. I just know that I need to get out of this funk, and this weekend, I am certainly going to try and do just that. I have a wonderful husband and a great marriage. I just need to learn how to make sure we still have time for each other, despite everything else that has to be taken care of. Have any of you experienced anything similar in your marriages after the babies came? What did you do to reconnect as a couple and reignite the spark in your relationship? Any ideas? I'd love to hear them! ***Disclosure: I received a gift card for writing this post. All opinions are 100% honest and have not been influenced in any way.***
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As the mom of 3 wonderful children, I am always looking for safe, eco-friendly products that will help keep them happy as well as make my life easier. With so many products on the market, it can be hard choosing the absolute best ones. Especially when it comes to feeding and drink supplies. Sure, there are myriads of children's tableware and cups on the market. But they are not all created equal. With toxic chemicals like BPA to think about, as well as concerns about sustainability and recycling, finding socially responsible feeding supplies that are made to last a lifetime can be a daunting task. That's why I was so excited when I stumbled upon The Ultimate Green Store. This is a one stop shop for wonderful products for the entire family that are also environmentally friendly. From organic bedding and clothing to beauty, skincare, toys, and more, The Ultimate Green Store literally can make choosing greener products for your family a simple, easy process. They take the guesswork out of it by offering only the highest quality products that have been tried and loved by many. They even have Bamboo sheets! And if you haven't tried Bamboo before, trust me. You're in for a treat. Bamboo is my fabric of choice when it comes to clothing. They even offer great greener alternatives for your furry friends! How cool is that?! We as women carry an arsenal of must haves in our handbags. From extra pacifiers to band-aids to make-up and hand sanitizer, we are prepared for literally anything our busy days can throw at us. But far too often, when hunger pangs attack, we don't have a snack readily available, leading to poor dieting decisions. I cannot tell you how many times I have been out running errands and felt my stomach growl. More often than not, this has led me to visit the Taco Bell drive thru, which effectively sabotaged my sensible eating goals for the day. Does this sound familiar? Well, it should. A recent survey found that a whopping 75 percent of women say they fall victim to unhealthy foods when hunger pangs hit, and they don´t have access to a meal. So what is one great way to combat the many temptations around us when we need a little pick me up? Carrying a sensible snack in our handbags! We carry the world in our purses to begin with, but a satisfying snack for US often gets overlooked, leading to these poor, impulsive food choices. I know I would love to have more control over these munchies attacks, so I was thrilled when I got the opportunity to review Fiber One 90 Calorie Chewy Bars. I have to admit, when I put the words "fiber" and "90 calories" together in my mind, I did not expect these to be tasty, let alone satisfying. Many other sensible snack bars tend to be on the dry side and taste eerily similar to cardboard. Thankfully, Fiber One 90 Calorie Chewy Bars did not live up to my not-so-good expectations. They are actually very tasty! These snack sized bars are chewy, chocolatey, and taste more like a candy bar than a sensible snack. Even my husband and my toddler loved these! And since they're portable, these make a great take-along while I am on the go. With Fiber One 90 Calorie Chewy Bars, I can keep my dieting efforts in check and squash the temptations of burgers and burritos while satisfying my snack attack. I have a few of them in my handbag right now! Hey, if I can carry around about 20lbs of beauty, first aid, and baby accessories, I can carry something along to help take care of ME, too! Fiber One 90 Calorie Chewy Bars just might be Fall's Must Have Accessory! I have LOADS of winners to announce! Are YOU one of them?! Without further ado, here are the lucky ladies! I love my job...I get to feel like Santa Claus!
CattleBoyz: Lexigurl Mighty Leaf: Bonnye S. Kix: Lori B. Chic Cheeks: Malissa S. Step2: Amanda A. Lindt: Ashley S. SoftBums: Debbie M. FoundIt!: Star K. Congrats! You've all been e-mailed and have 48 hours to claim your prizes! Thanks to everyone who entered, and be sure to check back often for more amazing giveaways! A couple of weeks ago, I noticed that I take my baby everywhere. Granted, at first --since I was recovering from a C-Section, I couldn't really go anywhere. Pretty much getting in and out of bed hurt. A lot. It's normal- I just had an incision going through skin, fat, and muscle. When I was about 14 years old, I remember my mother would often let her pregnant friends live with her for a couple of months to help her as much as she could. Kind of like moving in with your midwife. I didn't think of it much then, but boy that would have been awesome to have now. I didn't have anyone to help me out with the baby for a day or even a couple of hours. Now my mother has her handful and our family has gotten quite large that there is no room for me. Plus the situation is different. So everyday, my baby--along with her diapering needs and food where placed on my bed for easy reach. At some point, the pain became bearable enough to walk around my home. God knows I was so happy when that happened. I was so excited! I could now get up and clean my babies bottles, or wash a small load of baby laundry.
Although could physically run to my restroom with out pain---I tried not to go because I felt like I needed to watch the baby. I thought she might cry and need my attention right away! If you have ever been a pregnant women just undergone a c-section, you know that everyday tasks seem longer to accomplish. I was so anxious to cook and enjoy a meal instead of feasting fast food or microwavable food. But I wouldn't dare go to the kitchen for more than five minutes. I just felt the need to constantly watch my baby. After talking it over with my love; I was advised to go on ahead and take the baby with me. This idea delighted me. And I did it. I took my baby everywhere I went, restroom, kitchen, office, outside--everywhere in my home.. She's always with me in the same room either in my arms or in a neat vibrating baby chair. Sure, I could use the baby monitor. But at first it it felt not-trustworthy and fake. Not only that; but I pumped milk eight times a day, delivering 4-5 ounces each time. You can imagine that the connection with my little bundle of joy was rock solid.I had friends come over to visit me and they would ask when I was ready to hit the bars. My response to them was , "Oh no, I'm a mom now; I can't be doing that". My drinking days are over--no more. I can't give beer to a baby. I felt like she was my world now. I had so much love to give and felt the need to protect her at all costs. I eventually grew out of this phase. And left the room with the baby monitor trusting that whatever I heard and saw was a true reflection of her state. It was pretty harsh finding out; I really couldn't do this if I wanted to keep relationships with other people.I wondered how many mothers went through this? Written by: Sonia Garcia of Modern Girl Life |
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