We're Getting Married.....AGAIN!
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My ACTUAL wedding day. His hair is gone, as is 50lbs of ME!
My wonderful husband and I have been married for almost 4 years now. I have known Dan since I was 13 years old, and he truly is my best friend as well as the love of my life. We finish eachother's sentences, can read eachother's thoughts, and basically complement eachother perfectly. He stinks at anything spelling or grammar related, and I am awful at math unless I have a calculator in hand. While I am a worry-wort and panic at the slightest possibility of a stressful situation, he can laugh it off and bring me back to reality. I've taught him how to grow up and behave like an adult, (which was a feat in itself) and he has taught me that sometimes it really IS okay to act ridiculous and embrace the inner child we all have. We can laugh at eachother. We can laugh at ourselves, when need be. He's not afraid to tell me when I am being a neurotic pain in the butt, and I am not afraid to tell him when he needs to put on his "Big Boy Pants" and think like a grown-up. In a nutshell, we balance eachother out perfectly. I'm the cheese to his macaroni, and we're like two peas in a pod. There's something about us that just works. No one needs to understand it. We don't really care what anyone thinks. We just know that we have that "Holy Grail" of a relationship that people search for their whole lives and few are lucky enough to find. He is also the best husband and father I've ever known. He gladly changes even the most toxic of diapers, makes bottles, and acts as a human jungle gym for our toddler. He snuggles our son when he can't sleep. He helps my oldest child with his homework. This man is a miracle, and is willing to go out of his way for our family every single day. Is he perfect? Not at all. But he's perfect for me, and what we've got here is pretty darn special.
My only regret? Our wedding. Sure, it was nice. But it was very, very small and informal. As a matter of fact, there were only 3 people in attendance: My sister-in-law, my father-in-law, and my oldest son, Kyle. That's it! Well, aside from the Reverend who performed the ceremony. I didn't even get to wear a wedding dress. I know a wedding is not as much about the fanciness and the frills as it is about choosing to dedicate one's life to the person they love. For that reason, it was one of the happiest days of my life. But at the same time....I felt just a twinge of disappointment. Ever since a woman is a small girl, she dreams of her wedding. The dress...The flowers...The music...The dance....I am no exception. These are things I have always wanted, but never had. We simply couldn't afford it at the time, and that was okay with me. But that doesn't mean I haven't secretly wished for a nicer wedding. Nothing big, nothing overly fancy. I just wished there were a few more people there and that I got to wear the dress. Every girl wants to feel special and beautiful on her wedding day. I didn't really get to.
So when my husband recently re-proposed to me and asked me to have a real wedding so we could renew our vows, I said yes. (Of course!) So now, we have to start planning and figuring out what we need to do. We're shooting for late next summer/early fall. I am even thinking about having a wedding themed blog event! How cool would that be?! I actually have a gorgeous, $2000.00 dress that I purchased and never got to wear. Until recently, it wouldn't even fit. I've lost a lot of weight in the past year, so I am excited to get to actually wear this stunning dress!
But with a wedding comes something else we didn't get to experience: A Honeymoon! I am almost 100% certain we won't be able to afford a trip. So I will enter as many trip sweepstakes as I can in hopes of winning the dream vacation. (Hey, a girl can wish!) In the meantime, back in the land of reality, I am trying to find a way to have a Honeymoon type experience at home. Can it be done? I am sure I can come up with something special. We have awesome friends who will more than likely be happy to take the kids for a weekend, so now I just need to find a way to transform my home into a Honeymoon worthy "love nest."
I was recently browsing EdenFantasys, an adult shop that has everything under the sun for couples. Sure, they have a huge selection of sex toys and things a bit more on the wild side, but they also carry a fantastic selection of more romantic items. Items that might just be PERFECT for a poor man's Do-It-Yourself Honeymoon! I absolutely love their sensual love category. There are tons of great romantic products like candles, massage oils, and even bath and body products to help create the perfect mood for romance.
I especially like the idea of getting the Honeymoon Carry On Bag, which is full of adult goodies that are sure to make for a memorable evening. Or maybe I should go a more classic route and pick up some simple massage oils and aromatherapy candles, along with some rose petals to sprinkle in the bathwater to make a spa-like oasis. Or perhaps one of the great chocolate kits at EdenFantasys? My husband is a major chocoholic, so this would be quite the treat for him!
So as you can see, I have a LOT to plan for in the next several months! A real wedding ceremony, a Honeymoon, and everything that this entails. I am a bit clueless as to what I need to DO. I have never planned a wedding before! I am definitely excited, though, and am so glad I will get to marry my best friend all over again! Hopefully this time, we'll have a few more people in attendance and will have the ceremony we had wished we could afford 4 years ago. Any good wedding suggestions for someone on a tight budget would definitely be appreciated!
***Disclosure: I received a gift card for writing this post. All opinions are 100% honest and have not been influenced in any way.***
9/29/2011 06:05:07 am
i know you cant afford a trip, but try to take one day away, maybe in a hotel room. being away from home does make a difference because it really takes the mind out of the chores.
9/29/2011 11:55:37 pm
Congratulations!!! If you want any fun ideas, feel free to email me. My husband and I put together (with the help of my mom) a fully formal 400 person wedding and reception in 2 months! I still can't believe that we pulled it off and only spent $2500 (including the dress and tux rentals!) So, I have very creative and budget friendly ideas for you.
12/10/2011 06:15:32 pm
Ah, surprised to see you lost tons of weight. I want to learn from you.
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