Getting married again, for many, is a big deal. The whole round of informing the parents notwithstanding, there is the added pressure of informing former spouses, friends and extended family. But once that is done, you can finally settle down to enjoy what will be a second coming of one of the most special experiences designed by mankind - marriage.
Here we take a look at what a bride-to-be the second time around, have to take care of in terms of making sure she looks nothing less than a million bucks.
One of the biggest myths out there is that a second time bride cannot wear white. White, in weddings, usually represents virginal purity. Second time brides are usually advised to wear ivory, ecru or cream, but that is sheer hogwash.
Feel free to wear whatever makes you most comfortable, be it an orthodox white gown, a suit or a bright pink mini to make all your chubby friends jealous, it is your wedding. Your gowns formality should match the tone or the theme of the wedding celebration and should represent your personality, lifestyle and fashion sense.
Consider selecting a cocktail-length dress or a stunning couture suit that you can wear on another occasion as well, or which can be shortened for future use. Take your cues from the size, time, day and formality of your wedding ceremony or reception.
We know, we will never admit it, but we’re not 20 anymore. All of us have more than a few things that we do not want to show the world. You don’t have to wear a Leave It To Beaver sort of an outfit, but something age appropriate would definitely add a certain dignity to your look.
Do Not Make This a Weight-Loss Program
Do not, and this point is so important we will repeat it again, do not order your wedding dress a few sizes smaller than what you normally wear. Generally wedding dresses run 2-3 sizes larger than you would normally wear. So, if you are a size 4 and you are told you may need a size 7 wedding gown, now is not the time to start shoving your fingers down your throats. Nor is it wise to order your gown in a size 4, this would only end in disaster.
No one at your wedding will be looking for the size tag of your dress, what they will be looking at is you. If in the meantime they find you sitting down because you can’t breathe, they would know that the gown you ordered was too small.
Hoping that you will order a gown a few sizes smaller than you are in order to encourage you to lose some of that long standing baby weight is also a big bad decision. Steer clear of these pitfalls. Do not try and reach for the moon, it is your wedding, just make sure what you wear is comfortable enough and doesn’t cut off your breathing.
Try Not to Trip
Given that a train looks divine on any wedding dress, but if you are a klutz do not even think about it. Instead, think about how it would look when you trip and fall flat on your face with your husband-to-be standing down the aisle, and your little kid laughing uproariously.
Dress up Your Friends
Getting the right bridesmaid dresses are another big part of the wedding. Do not fall in the trap of going easy in the selection of the bridesmaid dresses; they should complement the bridal gown while at the same time enhance its appeal.
It would also be a good idea to get your mom a mother of the bride dress that goes with your own, something to ensure that the woman you so depend on is acknowledged.
Pay Attention to Alterations
Seamstresses and tailors can be a pushy breed. Not a generalization but it usually seems to be the case. They know their trade better than you do, and if they tell you something needs to be pinned, sewn or hemmed, you should listen. Go for a reputed tailor if you have to make alterations on an off-the-rack gown, preferably avoid going for something off-the-rack.
Walk around in your dress, sit down, bend, dance make sure that you can do all the things expected of you on the day itself. Unfortunately standing still and twirling are not the only things you will be doing on your wedding day. Tell your tailor what hinders your movement as there are always solutions for such problems.
Buy Your Shoes with the Dress
It is a tendency among brides, first timer or otherwise, to leave the shopping for shoes for the last. This isn’t a wise decision at all as the dress needs to work with the shoes. It is, after all, an ensemble. Take the shoes to every fitting you go to, make sure you really road test the shoes you are going to wear on your wedding day. The last thing you need then is a nasty shoe bite.
Get the Right Underwear
What are you going to wear, a special bra, a strapless bra or a crossback, will you wear stockings and boxers? No, these are not meant to be jokes, these are serious questions. Imagine this - You break out your brand new underwear on your wedding day, because you have a strapless gown and have done all your fittings sans a bra. But with the bra on the dress doesn’t zip up! Avoid such mistakes and make sure you have your underwear on during fittings as well.
Bring Someone along for the Trial
Nothing can replace having another set of eyes around for the fitting. Be it your mother, your sister, a girlfriend or even your young daughter, a fresh set of eyes can tell you what needs done where, better than you. Bring someone you trust, someone who will be able to block out the jabber of the tailor and tell you what needs be done.
A second wedding is no less special than the first, in fact it is more so. But when doing it again, there are always things that one needs to take care to avoid. In a nutshell, do not overthink your dress, go with what feels comfortable to you and make sure you have a ball.
Millie Rainer writes about a variety of things such as DIY, hospitality, fashion, and tech. She is looking to build up her authority as a blogger – so she is excited to explore new topics. Follow her on Twitter @MillieRainer.
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