K-Y Brand Intimacy Experiment Day 4~ Outside the Comfort Zone

Well, today is day 4 of the K-Y Brand Intimacy Experiment, and I have to say, if we were to actually be graded on this assessment, we would get a big, stinkin' F. Yesterday we talked about how you can settle into a relationship and as time goes by,  the "new love" feeling fades away to a degree. Well, today was about assessing things that we tend to do in front of our partners that we may not even think twice about because we're so darn comfortable with them that may be hindering things in the romance department. I'm sure that anyone who has ever been in a long-term relationship is guilty of at least one of these things. (Or several, if you're anything like us!) Apparently, part of the fuel for lasting sexual desire is to keep some novelty and mystery as part of the relationship. Yes, you may consider your mate to be your best friend, but do you really NEED to clip your toenails in front of them? How about leaving the door open when you use the restroom? These are just a couple of the things we are guilty of, by the way! But the real question is, would you have done these things in front of your partner in the beginning of your relationship? I have to say that Dan and I were immediately incredibly comfortable with one another, even in the beginning. Probably because we got along so well and have known eachother for a very long time. So none of these kinds of things ever really phased me, nor did they kill the desire. Maybe it's different for everyone, though. Who knows?


Anyway, according to the manual, here are some of the obstacles to a smokin' sex life that many couples (including us) are guilty of. I will post after each item on the list whether or not these are offenses that we, as a couple, are guilty of partaking in. Feel free to check off the items that describe your life.

Do you:

• Sleep with kids or pets in your bed or bedroom? ~Kids, yes. The babies DO sleep in our room. Pets, heck no!!!! Dan would love to have the dog in the room, but it would drive me insane! No dogs in my room, or especially in my bed. Ever. Period.
• Have (and use) a television, computer, or smartphone in the bedroom? ~TV, yes. I can't sleep in dead silence, so I always have it on as background noise. Dan gets sucked in and his brain cells get eaten by it, though. I don't even pay attention to the TV 95% of the time. And obviously, the computer goes in my bedroom. When would I find the time to blog or enter my sweepstakes if I didn't do it when everyone else was asleep?
  
• Spend your evenings on the internet,e-mailing, using social networking? ~I try not to while Dan is home and awake. I may hop on for a few minutes here or there, but for the most part I limit my internet use for when he's busy, asleep, or at work.
  
• Leave the door open while using the restroom? ~Guilty. Totally guilty here. Unless we're pooping. Some things must remain sacred, people!
• Perform personal grooming habits in front of your partner, like flossing, brushing your teeth,shaving, etc?~ Okay. Yes, we do these things, but neither Dan nor I feel that this is an issue.
  
• Sometimes skip basic hygiene because you're too tired, lazy, or think your partner doesn't care? ~ Dan has been known to do this, but I do not. I MUST be clean at all times. I have a weird obsession with smelling good,lol. I may not always have make-up on and my hair may not always be styled, but I ALWAYS practice good basic hygiene!

So these are just some of the things that may be inhibiting intimacy on a sexual level. As you can see, we're guilty of most of it. But it doesn't seem to affect things for us in a negative manner. Nonetheless, for the sake of the experiment, I am going to refrain from doing most of the above things and see if it makes a difference.

Stay tuned tomorrow for Day 5 of the K-Y Brand Intimacy Experiment!

For more information about the Intimacy Experiment, make sure to check out K-Y Brand’s Facebook Page, Couples Place.

Disclosure: I wrote this posting while participating in a blog campaign on behalf of K-Y® Brand and also received product samples to help facilitate my review. In addition, K-Y® Brand sent me a gift card to thank me for taking the time to participate. All thoughts and opinions are 100% honest and my own, and were not influenced in any way.

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