Fast forward several years into the future. I left my abusive marriage and reconnected with my now-husband who I dated when I was 13 years old. He is a wonderful man, and treats me like a princess and loves my son as if he were his own. We decided we wanted to expand our family, since we both had the desire to have more children. We actually suffered from secondary infertility, since I have PCOS, and I remember trying for YEARS to conceive my daughter, and the elation and joy I felt when I got to hold her for the first time. She was our little "Miracle Baby". She's spoiled rotten, too! My little diva is now a toddler, and gets more hugs and kisses every day than I think I got from my parents throughout my entire childhood.
When Sophie was only 3 months old, much to our surprise, we got pregnant AGAIN....Without trying or planning at all! It is stressful having babies that are only 12 months apart in age, but it's definitely a blessing. My youngest son, Xander, is a happy, sweet 4 month old and while I was not overly thrilled about being pregnant again so soon, I couldn't imagine my life without him. He's my little Snuggle-Bug and loves to be held, talked to, hugged, and kissed.
Did you know that one of the first abilities a newborn has is the ability to love? And they NEED love, too. Love, like food, shelter and clothing, is a basic human necessity that we are hard-wired with from birth. Being born must be a pretty traumatic experience, if you stop and think about it...Baby has spent 9 months safe and warm in his mother's womb, constantly comforted by the sound of Mommy's heartbeat and the voices that he or she can hear from the outside world. When a baby is born, they are ripped from that "safe" environment and enter a world that is full of bright lights, is chilly, and they are immediately whisked away to be poked, prodded, and cleaned. How scary that must be for a newborn! It's no wonder that they cry!
Soon after birth, once overall health is determined, baby is placed in the arms of Mommy and Daddy. This is where the real bonding begins. Did you know that the MOST important time to form a bond with your baby is within the first few months after birth? In establishing a strong parental bond with your baby, your baby will feel safer, more secure, more loved, and happier in general.
I have recently discovered a great tool to help promote this important bonding process, a book and CD set called Safe in the Arms of Love. Safe in the Arms of Love was designed to help establish a deep sense of connection and unconditional love between parent and child. This is a scientifically designed and musically inspired product specifically created to enhance a loving and successful bonding experience for both parent and child.
Safe in the Arms of Love will teach, encourage and support you as you bond with your baby. You will learn about bonding and what it actually "feels" like. You'll learn how to quiet your mind which in turn helps your baby to quiet down and relax (a lifesaver for new parents!) There are chapters specifically for moms and chapters for dads. A father's love is JUST as important as a mother's! You'll also learn the 5 essential ways to support the bonding process through touch, eye contact, voice, playing and calming your baby.
Endorsed by leading authorities such as Deepak Chopra, M.D., Christiane Northrup, M.D., Dean Ornish, M.D., Marshall Klaus, M.D. and Phyllis Klaus, MFT, LMSW, the music and book package is the first release from producers Resonant Sounds, LLC, which creates products utilizing Positive Intention Music™ to help parents experience healthy bonding with their baby.
Developed by sound healer and songwriter Lisa Rafel, Emmy-winning composer Gary Malkin, and clinical psychologist Dr. David Surrenda, the book and CD are designed to relax both parent and child, allowing them to form the deep heart connection that is the essence of the bonding experience.
The music in Safe in the Arms of Love was intentionally composed to facilitate bonding using Positive Intention Music™. “By utilizing psychoacoustics and sound healing principles, we are helping to create a peaceful, attentive, heart filled atmosphere where both parent and baby can become emotionally connected,” says Gary Malkin.
Safe in the Arms of Love discusses:
- How to create a heartfelt and intimate connection with baby
- What the bonding experience physically feels like – and helps parents come into that state through visualization and breathwork
- The power of Positive Intention Music™, which utilizes the principles of tempo, pitch and intention to scientifically calm a mother’s heart and increase the connection between mother and child
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You can learn more about Safe in the Arms of Love on their website.
You can also purchase this on Amazon! What a wonderful baby shower idea!
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